The One

I've been a major slacker on blog posting.  Nothing really new going on with me.  I'm still looking for a job.  I can't lie - its such a sucky process.  Its like online dating.  Which if any of you have tried know it can be awful.   Now I will say that not all experiences are bad.  I know plenty of people that have been very successful.  One of my oldest and dearest friends found her husband online.  They have been married for almost 10 years and are great for each other! 

However my experience was not as awesome.  Right after I got divorced back in 2002 and lived in Vegas a bunch of my friends thought it would be a good idea for me to get back in the dating scene.  Put your profile online they said, it will be fun they said.  Here's how it really went down.  I pimped myself out on a couple of dating sites.  On my profile I was honest with what I was looking for and bought into the commercials that stated this site could find my soul mate as soon as I entered my credit card information and paid my monthly fee.  Unfortunately I only found guys that said they wanted something serious just to find out that the only thing they were looking for was the bedroom.  Most of the dates went like this:

1. Meet for a drink
2. Listen to the guy tell me about how charitable he was and how much he loved his friends and family
3. Think that this might actually be a decent guy
4. Quickly get reminded that he is not a nice guy when he tries to get  me to go home with him
5. Leave disappointed thinking that there are no good men left in the world that even entertain the thought of realtionship lasting more than 24 hours

Or

1. Meet for a drink
2. Listen to the guy talk about the time he saved puppies from a burning building (ok maybe not that exact story but you get the point) and how much he wants to get serious with "the one"
3. Listen to him say how cool that he thought I was.  That I wasn't like anyone that he had ever met.  Tells me about an event that is coming up and he wants me to go with him  
4. Get my hopes up when we get ready to leave and he says that he can't wait to see me again and is going to call me with the details
5. Wait by the phone for the call
6. Wait
7. Ensure that I still have some bars of service on my cell phone in all areas of the house
8. Wait
9. Have a friend call me to test to see if my phone still rings
10. Deal with the rejection - not very well

Oh and my personal favorite and the reason that I shut down online dating.......the guy that wanted to talk about all of his scars for an hour during dinner and then didn't reach for his wallet when the check came.  I could have dealt with scar talk if he had been race car driving, or climbing mountains when he got these scars.  But it was more like the time he tripped over a rock or when his cousin hit him with a brick.  Ugh.  That date was painful.  All this job searching and posting profiles on career sites brings me right back to that time.  I'm filling out job applications (a.k.a. Pimping myself out) and getting my hopes up thinking that this could be "the job" because I have everything this company is looking for, only to be disappointed when I never get a call.  It's a vicious cycle.  I wish that I had the luxury of shutting down the job search and deleting my profiles just as I did with the dating sites.  Not that I don't to work - I do.  I'm ready for the long term relationship with a company, I'm ready for "the one".